Unfortunately, my Mom didn't know this has been something on my mind lately. I've been really bugged by it because I know Lilly needs to be potty trained but the process I am going to try requires me to read a book, and then focus a few hours of undisturbed teaching time with her. So I plan on reading the book during vacation and teaching when we get home.
But I digress....
Today, while at my parents house for Sunday dinner, we were outside enjoying the evening and Shane informed me that Lilly had a poopy diaper. I kindly let him know that I had just finished changing Noah's Nuclear Load and could still smell the singed nose hairs so he got this dirty duty.
As he took her inside to put on a dry princess (her princess pull-ups) my Mom kindly says, "I can't believe your going to make him change it. When you were little your Dad never changed a dirty diaper unless I wasn't home. It was just one of those things that I never made your Dad do."
My poor Mom. She didn't know the demon she was asking me to unleash.
I replied, "Well, Mom... Times have changed. These kids are just as much his as they are mine so this is one of those responsibilities that we SHARE! I pay the bills, he mows the lawn but we BOTH wipe bums.
I feel bad because I know my Mom was just trying to look out for Shane and make sure I don't take advantage of his good helpful nature. How was she suppose to know that poopy diapers have been nicking that last nerve of mine. SORRY MOM!! I know you meant well and I appreciate you looking out for me and my hubby.
So, now I am curious. How many of you let your hubbys help with diaper duty? I've put a poll on my side bar. I would love you to leave comments and answer the poll. Am I the only one out there who doesn't have a problem letting my hubby clean a dirty diaper??
Nope, we're together on this 100%. Gary changes just as many diapers as I do. He does the brunt of them when he gets home from work and on his day off. We have terrific hubby's, don't we? :)
ReplyDeleteWhile I feel that Dallas is amazing and wonderful, I do the dirty duty unless I am not there. A few times in our dirty bum careers some thave been left when the know mom was on her way home. In the NICU it was a treat to change a bum so we kinda had a rush game to see who could disinfect and wash up and change a butt. Now.... well I do the most of it.
ReplyDeleteP.S. You're gonna LOVE having LIlly trained. I don't need to tell you that, I know. You already know, but I can't wait for you to be able to have it done! YIPPEE!
ReplyDeleteWell with my last two I was a sahm so I obviously changed more of them but regardless from day 1 with the oldest one he's helped change diapers.
ReplyDelete*GASP* I even ask him to help out with bath time duties!! Is that bad of me? snicker ;)
I don't know if 'let him' is the right word. I think maybe it's more like 'make him' in our case. :) We've always shared the diaper-changing duties pretty evenly when we're both home - and have been known to argue, flip coins and play rocks/paper/scissors to determine who has to go and deal with it from time to time. ;)
ReplyDeleteI change the majority of them. When both are messy at the same time then we each take one. Kayden sometimes will only let me change his diaper and will throw a fit if I don't. But, that has now changed because he is POTTY TRAINED! I am not trying to be mean at all because I know your pain. It is really exciting when they do get potty trained. Kayden is 3 and 1/2 years old and he was just ready.
ReplyDeleteI tried to vote on your poll, but it wouldn't take the request.
ReplyDeleteAh well, we don't have any diapers in this house -- and not for a long time. However, my hubby was great about shoulder his portion of the responsibility. Most of the time I didn't even know he'd changed one of the rugrats until he came through the house holding the lethal weapon at arm's length.
I don't miss the diapers, but I do miss the baby age. Butterfly kisses -- nothing sweeter.
Want the HONEST truth? I voted, but my exact answer wasn't on there.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm home alone (which when your husband is gone to work 14 hours a day - happens frequently...) I change them.
Anytime is he actually home with us...he does them. I don't touch one.
This was never discussed...just works out this way. I'll take it.
LOL! I never even think twice about changing diapers. I just do it. My hubby changes them, too, but I usually don't realize it. Whenever we go out, though, he just always does it. It's an unspoken thing that I never really realized until this post! For some odd reason the dirty stinky ones always happen when I am just around anyway!
ReplyDeletei saw your 'share the love pic' from another site and came to yours! I did it on mine now!
ReplyDeleteand we share changing diapers...and i let him have most on weekends! i have them all during the days while he's at work ;)
For the first week of my oldest's life, I didn't change a SINGLE diaper. My hubby is an only child, so this was a new, cool experience. His attitude has always been "it took both of us to make the baby, so it should take both of us to raise the children" and he willingly changed his share when he was home. During solid food times, we would sometimes have to do rock, paper, scissors. :-)
ReplyDeleteNow we are diaper free!!! Hip Hip Hooray!
I do the majority of the diaper changes because my husband is usually working long hours away from the house...plus when he is home, he does not have alot of patience when Bryleigh starts to wiggle...so to keep their relationship good...mommy does most of the "dirty" work.
ReplyDeleteSince I am home all day and Dave works all day I do end up changing the most diapers. But, whenever he is home he changes them when he notices a changing is needed or whenever I ask him too. He is really great about it.
ReplyDeletewe both do the diaper changing here too. hey did his part in creating the pooping machine..he can do his part in keeping it clean :)
ReplyDeleteWahoo for all these awesome hubbies!
ReplyDeleteIn my case, hubby will change the diaper but wants me around for moral support during the changing. Maybe it's the companionship - a mini-date-night event?
We share, but I do more of it since I'm home more. And because I am the mom. Times HAVE changed (no pun intended).
ReplyDeleteFor both kids he has changed equal, if not more diapers as I have. He our son is nearly two and my hubbie still gets up every night to change his diaper if he needs it. I wouldn't have married someone who wasn't going to share ALL the responsibilities. I have loved reading the comments here. Sounds like there are actually some great husbands out there! What a refreshing read!
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